Secret Sister Getting-to-Know-You Questions

If your church's women's group is starting up a Secret Sister program, one of the first thing you'll want to do in organizing it is to print the important forms that can help make your Secret Sister group successful.

First, you'll want to have a sign-up sheet for those interested in becoming involved. We have a sign-up sheet available here: Secret Sister Sign Up

Next, you'll want to print out a questionnaire (like the one below) that each woman will fill out. Fold all of the filled-out forms the same (so there aren't any clues to whose paper is whose) and have each woman choose one. They may look at whose name they got, but they will not show it to anyone else. (It's a secret!) As they send notes of encouragement and gifts during the allotted time of your program, typically a few months, they will be able to base their gifts on the information given to them in the questionnaire about their Secret Sister.

Tip #1: The leader of your Secret Sister group may want to keep a private record of who each person picked as a Secret Sister. This helps when someone hasn't been participating as they should, so it can be addressed by the leader without revealing names. (see tip #3)

Tip #2: Someone should speak up right away if they picked their own name, so the drawing may be re-done fairly. (Each participant has to have someone else's name for this to work.)

Tip #3: If someone leaves the group, does not participate as agreed, or there is some other circumstance preventing them from reaching out to their Secret Sister - Have a plan in place to address this. First, reach out to the person to remind them to do their part. If that does not resolve it, have a back-up plan. The group's leader can contribute in-place of that person, by reaching out to the other person (recipient) themselves. Or use your list of names collected in the beginning, perhaps having the person who was giving to the person-not-participating switch to give to the person who had not been receiving anything.

Find our other tips for having a successful Secret Sister group here: Tips